Contrary to what we may think, our busy lives are really facades. Though we constantly say we “don’t have time to do this or that”, in reality we have more than enough time. We make time for what we feel is important to us. Relaxing and releasing is important for our well-being; for our inner most selves, so that we can re-focus and rejuvenate our minds. Yes, it is important that we take time for ourselves. But it is more important that we are faithful to our commitments to ourselves by actually taking that time daily.
“Well pRoy, how do I make time for myself?”
Whether it is 15 minutes or 3 hours, there is always time for you to cater to you. Try these steps:
1. Allot a time for “you”.
Just like you make time in your schedule to eat, sleep, and do whatever, you have to make time to just “be”. To start, this time has to be uncompromisable. You have to form a habit, so pick a time where you know you will not be interrupted and will have no problems remembering. My favorite time for myself is in the morning before everyone in the house wakes up. If I know I have to reschedule, I plan accordingly. There is not one day that goes by that I do not account for myself.
2. Pick your favorite pastime.
Running is an awesome release for me. Sometimes I run with my husband, other times I run alone. No matter when or whom I am running with, I focus on my release. Can’t worry about the race anyone else is running, yanno? I can only focus on my performance, my goals, and my task at hand. Running may not be your pastime, but pick something that you like and enjoy: reading, meditation, exercise, taking a bubble bath, sewing, journaling, getting a massage – whatever it is that helps you relax, schedule that time for you.
Do not, I repeat, do not even THINK about answering to others during this time. This means no phone calls, no answering emails, no tweets, no NOTHING. Take it one step further and turn off your thoughts and shut down your “to-do list”. Stop worrying, and just be. Unplug it all and plug into yourself.
4. Be present.
There is nothing worse than taking time for yourself and not enjoying it. Just like I mentioned earlier about not worrying, this is a time for you to simply be there in the moment. Enjoy it fully by being present. Take it all in minute by minute. Close your eyes (if you must) and savor the moment as you would your last meal on Earth. After all, who knows when you will get another moment like this to yourself?
How are you relaxing and releasing these days?